Do you know the No. 1 cause of divorce? Most people don’t. It isn’t sex. It isn’t money. And it isn’t differences in religious belief. The No. 1 cause of divorce is the avoidance of conflict. Yes, that’s right. The avoidance of conflict is the No. 1 cause of divorce. Couples who are most likely [...]
There comes a time in almost every relationship where it seems that you have hit a brick wall. Nothing seems to be going right and its no one’s fault. You don’t know how you got in that situation and you don’t know how to get out. Crisis counseling can help. Often, crisis counseling only requires [...]
Everyone needs at least one friend outside of their marriage to discuss things that take place within the context of their spousal relationship in a nonjudgmental way. I’m not talking about a member of the opposite sex or a situation that could lead you to infidelity. I’m talking about a friend who will respect your [...]
We are all individuals and have our own unique personality characteristics, but people with mental disorders often exhibit the same tendencies. That is certainly true of anxiety disorder victims. Here are a few of the characteristics you’ll find among people with anxiety disorder: Sensitivity – People with anxiety are often overly sensitive to external stimuli. [...]
Let’s face it, sometimes a married couple can affect their children deeply by airing openly their own grudges. This can often have such a deep and lasting effect on the children that family counseling is necessary. It’s important to realize, however, that family counseling won’t solve all problems. If the issue is between you and [...]
One of the most trying experiences in a person’s life is going through counseling. You often are sharing your deepest secrets with a stranger. That is not only frightening, but if the stranger is not properly trained and credentialed then it can be dangerous. Even if the counselor is trained and credentialed, ethical dilemmas can [...]
Finding a therapist can be a challenging task if you don’t know what to look for. There are different kinds of therapists and counselors and you should take your time to evaluate them to find the right one. Don’t just look at location and price and make a decision. Other factors should influence you as [...]
Pre-marriage counseling is one of those necessities that many couples thinking about getting married often neglect or overlook. So many young couples are overly confident of themselves and their ability to relate. Here’s a simple truth: It is very difficult to maintain a long term relationship and keep the spark alive for your entire lives. [...]
You may think that you are not a counselor do not possess the qualifications to be one, but there is no reason you can’t teach other married couples how to live happily and develop a successful relationship. The fact is, education is not considered counseling. It is the dissemination of information. You can be a [...]
Many couples put off counseling because they think they can work out their own problems. Sometimes they do, but often they can’t. If you find yourself in a situation where you think that couples counseling may help you and your partner become better communicators and lovers, but you aren’t sure where to start then you [...]
The two biggest marriage breakers are the big S&M. No, not that S&M. I’m talking about sex and money. Marriages that have problems are not always related to one of these two big issues, but the majority of marriage problems are related to at least one of them. So how do you get past the [...]
Anxiety is one of the body’s ways of telling you that you are experiencing stress. Your heart pounds, your palms are sweaty, your thoughts race and you wake up in the middle of the night in pools of sweat. What can you do? Well, one thing you can do is to talk to a counselor [...]
Family therapy is sometimes necessary to heal a particular dysfunction or to overcome a trauma that has paralyzed your relationships. It’s important to understand that no obstacle is too difficult to overcome. Sometimes personal healing comes when others better understand what you’ve been through. Your family is important. Even being the victim of a trauma [...]
You may have noticed that certain family backgrounds tend to develop positive relationship skills while other backgrounds do not. The truth is, relationship skills are not inherited. Rather, they are more often than not learned through environmental influences. Personality traits, on the other hand, often are inherited. That’s why you often hear people speak of [...]
Friendship is like good insurance. You never know just how important it is until you really need it. In fact, the supportive nature of friendship is so subtle and so integral to our everyday quality of life, that we can sometimes take it for granted. For instance, this is a common occurrence with women when [...]
Emotional infidelity can happen without warning. Two people from different worlds and different regions connect and find they have common interests online. Sometimes it’s a professional association, a hobby or problems at home. Through online interactions they find easy acceptance and support. There’s no baggage or expectations. Acceptance and support often leads to friendships. Friendships [...]
Counseling, until recent years, was a practice that was greatly misunderstood and steeped in stigma. But as couples and individuals became more progressive in their way of thinking, they recognized that counselors are integral to our well being and quality of life. In fact, the need for counseling affects just about every segment of our [...]
Have you ever wondered why some married couples defy the odds and go the distance in their marriages while others end almost as quickly as they begin? Or why some unions, like fine wine, seem to get better with age? Though they may have different dynamics, they all have a commonality that exists: SMART behaviors. [...]
A manual for the unfaithful partner You have had an affair and your partner knows what has happened. What do you do next? Dr. Marty Tashman, a well known marriage counselor in New Jersey will help you to find the answers to getting past infidelity and to building a new and better relationship. He has [...]
Anxiety can hold an iron grip on a person’s life. It can literally paralyze you right into inaction, or worse. But it doesn’t have to. There are ways to overcome anxiety so that it doesn’t rule and control you. The first step, however, is to recognize its symptoms. Anxiety is a response to a perceived [...]
Talk to any successful and happily married couple and they will tell you that their relationship is built on mutual trust and friendship. No relationship will survive a lack of trust or a deficit in kindred love. Marriage love starts at the friendship level and builds. So what happens when a married couple forgets that [...]
Telling the truth is a part of every relationship. In fact, truthfulness, trust and honesty are some of the main building blocks of any successful relationship. Without honesty and trust between a couple there can be no long term commitment or bond. Dishonesty and a lack of trust only serve to continuously foster an environment [...]
Marriage counseling is a form of therapy that deals with a wide variety of marital and relationship problems. Infidelity, anger, resentment, abuse or simply the natural separation that can happen in relationships – all of these things are common issues that couples bring to a marriage counselor to help them deal with. Of the many [...]
The economic recession has taken its toll on many marriages as stress and financial concerns overcome the daily emotional needs of couples. As more and more people are finding themselves out of work, often for the first time in their lives, they are also finding new emotional vulnerabilities that are cutting them to the core. [...]
Many families find that the stress, issues and resentment that they have been feeling is only exacerbated during a holiday get-together. Holidays put a lot of pressure on families that they could otherwise ignore or push aside. The expectations of how a family should behave or interact, the realization that the actual family is much [...]
Marriage counseling is for more than just couples issues like infidelity and long term arguing. Real marriages come from every direction in life‘s map, good and bad, with problems that range in every location on that map, too. Many times, marriage counselors are asked to help couples re-connect and re-bond. Instead of having a marital [...]
There are different reasons for people to seek out online therapy instead of traditional in-office therapy. Many people find the convenience and distance of online therapy to be helpful, while others need and seek out the more physical aspects of face-to-face in-office therapy. The choices are available because there was a growing need for quality, [...]
Personalized therapy is a very powerful way to help individuals deal with social anxieties and anxiety or panic attacks. For those who suffer from panic attacks and anxiety in social situations, the results can cause debilitating isolationism and a breakdown of social interactions and mental health. Helping people deal with these issues, accept them and [...]
The addition of children to any marriage adds a complexity to the relationship and to the lifestyle as a whole. No matter how many times or in how many ways someone else says that children add new and varied levels to a relationship and to a life, it is something that really just isn’t understood [...]
Children can make a marriage difficult. While most marriages find strength and comfort and there is incredible joy in the children, there is no doubt that raising children is a lot of hard work and the stress included in the monumental decision-making involved in parenting can result in a lot of marital strain. Take Bobby, [...]
