Free marriage advice is hard to come by. But it’s not impossible. You can get free marriage advice from counselors and other people going through the same dilemmas that you are going through by joining a forum about marriage and talking over your situation with others who might have some insight into your issues. Sometimes [...]
Easier said than done, right? Remember the time when you expressed your love at every opportunity? And your beloved blushed or beamed with happiness. What changed? The fact that you are married? Now, come one, the love cannot suddenly die. But yes, now, you find other couples who seem happier than you. And yet, there [...]
Isn’t it strange for a marriage counseling blog to say that you should not continue your marriage? Don’t we always say that you should not give up on marriage too soon? Yes, we say that. We believe in saving marriages, so why change the tune? No, we are not changing our belief. What we simply [...]
“A marriage is happy only if the spouses are best friends,” said a friend many years ago. I used to wonder if that is indeed true. How many of you can claim to have one single closest friend? While we have many friends, the concept of ‘best friend’ does not apply in every case. So, [...]
Important marriage advice and tips when presented separately can leave one confused. So, in today’s post, I plan to revisit all the marriage advice we discussed in the last few posts. Hope this helps you get a good idea of how you can improve your marriage. If your spouse seems to sport low self esteem [...]
“He makes me feel like a queen.” “She makes me feel so good about myself.” No, this doesn’t just happen in movies. It happens to real couples. It is the falling-in-love phase. A romantic relationship is supposed to make you feel good. So, when the relationship starts making you feel bad about yourself, there is [...]
When was the last time you told your spouse that you love him/her? Oh, wait, you guys are married now so you don’t need to say that anymore. Is that how you feel? Remember how many times and in how many ways you expressed your love for him/her in your courtship days. Why did you [...]
Have you ever heard someone say that his/her marital problems are too big to be solved by petty relationship tips? Oh wait, you say that all the time. Your problems are huge, you say. I am sure they are, but I believe every problem has a solution. However, the solution needs to be preceded by [...]
Are you being selfish in your marriage? Do you expect more of your spouse than you can offer? Do you expect your spouse to be perfect while calling your flaws being human? Do you treat your spouse the way you want to be treated? Do you expect your spouse to accept your family and friends [...]
We have always maintained that marriage is an exclusive relationship. So, when there is a problem in your marriage, it needs to be handled with care. Unlike in any other relationships, with marriage you have the scope of ending the relationship with something called a divorce. In other relationships, even you part for some time, [...]
Do you need certain skills to make a marriage work? Or is it all about love and trust? According to Diane Sollee, founder of the Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education, LLC (CMFCE), marriage is a skill-based proposition. You need certain skills to make a marriage work. In an interview, this is what Sollee [...]
“My cousin had been married for 14 years before she and her husband separated. Why would they part after so long? Her husband must have the problem.” How many cousins, friends, and colleagues you know whose break-up after a long and seemingly happy marriage surprises you? I am sure there are many. Why do we [...]
What is better – sulking or talking it out? Now, sulking can never be good. Talking it out helps, almost all the time, and yet, there are times we find ourselves without company and keep problems to ourselves. If you are keeping your marriage problems to yourself and sulking, you need to find out company [...]
Do you often come across some piece of marriage advice that contradicts something you were told earlier? When there is too much advice floating around from all sorts of sources (counselors, family, friends, neighbors, colleagues etc.), there is bound to be some sort of contradiction. However, the most puzzling sort is the one that comes [...]
It’s in small things that you find great pleasures in your life. Imagine calling up a friend after years and he/she readily agrees for a drink with you in the evening. Imagine asking your spouse to cook a certain dish or mow the lawn and see the work done by evening. Imagine the hug your [...]
The world says, “Nothing comes free!” And if somebody offers you free advice, it is either considered unsolicited or non-useful advice. Marriage advice comes free only from friends and family, and it is something we do not give much importance to. Never do you see a relationship expert giving advice for free. Oh wait, there [...]
Remember the time when you were almost swept off your feet? Remember those times when you used to wait for the calls from your beloved? Now that your beloved is your spouse, have things changed between the two of you? Is the spark missing? Is there no sweet tension between the two of you when [...]
Every relationship is different from another, but marriage takes an exclusivity. Marriage is not born out of blood relationship. It is something we get into by choice. Love, trust, and understanding takes us into it, and only these things can make the marriage work. Here’s what Arlene Foreman, renowned counselor, has to say about the [...]
Before you crib about the state of your relationship, have you really looked into what is causing it? I understand that you are fed up and don’t really want to analyze it, but take just a moment to pause and analyze it if you want the relationship to sustain. And, yeah, try to be objective; [...]
Can you go to your spouse when you feel scared or vulnerable? Does your spouse feel comfortable sharing his/her problems with you? Do you and your spouse not judge each other at every incident? The emotional security of your relationship is what makes the relationship content. If you do not hesitate a moment before declaring [...]
Source: http://news.byu.edu/archive10-jul-marriageprep.aspx Before they take the plunge, many engaged couples may wonder if a marriage preparation class is worthwhile. Some Brigham Young University professors asked the same question, and what they found might surprise you: yes and no. The yes: Marriage prep classes significantly increased couples’ communication quality. “We found that classes can improve couples’ [...]
At times, it is nothing but boredom that brings marriage on the verge of divorce. The seven-year itch is also about the same thing. You stay with a person long enough to lose interest in him/her and are at a loss of ideas for having fun together. Now, this itch doesn’t necessarily come after seven [...]
What does the happiness of your marriage depend on? I know there is no right or single answer to this question. There are just too many factors governing the status of your marriage. Now, tell me, what would you treat first: a seemingly unstable marriage or a seemingly depressed/anxious/angry spouse? I know there is a [...]
How soon after your wedding do you say your marriage is over? Some couple declare it just a few months after, others say it years later, but more often than not, most people seem to say this at least once. What makes you think that your marriage is over? There are times when an incident [...]
You are the one who decides whether to go for marriage counseling or not. You are the one who pays attention to the advice given by the counselor. You are the one who implements suggested advice to make changes in your relationship. You are the one who is the happiest when things improve in your [...]
Something is considered a success or a failure at only its closure. How would you then describe success of a marriage? Do you call a marriage successful because it has lasted a certain number of years? The next day, you may learn about the couple parting. Then, do you call a marriage a success when [...]
If you love being married or being in a relationship, you have got to love the person you are in the relationship with. If you want your marriage to work, you cannot expect your spouse to keep doing things as you suggest or expect. You are an equal contributor to the problems and happiness in [...]
What do you think is the most dreaded word in a marriage? Divorce? No, divorce is a dreaded consequence. There is another word that may or may not bring you to the verge of divorce but will definitely shake the foundations of your marriage. The word is infidelity. Now, one may choose to define infidelity [...]
Everyone – married, unmarried, re-married, divorced, young, old – can hand over advice on marriage. And thanks to so many views and takes on the subject, you are likely to end up with conflicting opinions. What do you know about marriages and the counseling associated with them? The counselors of Philadelphia Area Couples Counseling Alliance [...]
How do you define satisfaction in a marriage? While others may find your marriage happy, you may not be content with it. It is a lot about perspective. Like everything else, different people give marriage a different meaning. The goals in marriage are also different. It is unlikely that two individuals will have the same [...]
