The Marriage Counseling Blog

Anger is a reaction and sometimes a proactive decision that can help each of us survive through even the most difficult times. The emotion was designed to carry us through dangerous and difficult situations and if channeled correctly can be used as such even in a civilized society. Anger also, however, has been [...]

There are many ways for anger to affect a marriage. Avoidance of anger or encouragement of it may seem miles apart and yet each often results in troubled marriages that require the sure and steady hand of a trained marriage counselor to treat and understand. The ability to balance anger and compassion, understanding [...]

Marriage counseling teaches couples how to better communicate with one another but even using the techniques of a trained counselor can fall flat when compounded by the difficulties of untreated depression.
Depression in Marriage
Depression is a major source of divorce, simply because its signs, symptoms and reactions so closely mimic unhappiness, anger and resentment in a [...]

There are many different techniques that marriage counselors use to help their clients manage their relationship, improve their communication and re-learn better ways of connecting to one another. Two of the most useful marriage counseling techniques also work together, much as a couple needs to, in order to help a couple move past their [...]

Many marriages relish the extra spice added by the occasional fantasy or fantasy role play opportunity, and it is common for a person to fantasize about another person even when having sexual contact with their very real partner. Marriage counselors talk to couples about such things all the time, but there are instances when [...]

There are many ongoing research that look into the effectiveness of marriage counseling and family therapy. The benefits of therapy, while difficult to measure in a traditional sense, clearly show the benefits of counseling and therapy in helping families learn to better relate and communicate.
Marriage and family therapy cover a large range of mental [...]

Financial concerns have put many couples over the edge, but help can be found in the form of one-session marriage counseling. When you attend a one-meeting marriage counseling session, you are able to achieve real benefits and techniques to improve your relationship without putting you into medical debt.
A one-meeting marriage counseling session will help [...]

Jill and Jared has a problem in their relationship and the were not willing to go through to the next step, marriage, unless they could get to the core of he issue. After much discussion, they came to the conclusion that they did love each other, they wanted to be with one another, they [...]

When your partner is unfaithful it may seem that there is little love or trust left in your marriage. Marriage Therapy can help you and your partner reestablish those bonds of trust and love again even when it seems like hope is lost.
Infidelity Hurts
Infidelity is a problem that has affected marriages and relationships throughout [...]

Married couples often come to marriage counseling when their relationship is already tired and out of shape, left on it’s own to develop unhealthy communication and response habits. You see, a marriage is almost a thing of its own accord, separate from each individual because it is made up of a combination of both. [...]

There are different signs that become more obvious when a couple is in dire need of marriage counseling. The arguments may increase dramatically or, in some severe cases, stop altogether in an icy silence. Resentment and anger may have led to eventual emotional distance, which in turn resulted in the couple leading completely separate [...]

Marriage problems can come in many different directions, catching us off guard and throwing off the carefully built balance of our relationship. Marriage problems aren’t something to be ashamed of because they are just another part of the natural progression of every long term relationship. The ways in which we deal with these problems [...]

Your marriage counselor will help you and your partner find ways to make your relationship last by practicing healthy, simple techniques every day. Most marriages that are seen in marriage counselor’s offices are there because of years of relationship neglect and the formation of poor communication and relating habits.
Changing these marriages requires [...]

One of the most frustrating times in a troubled marriage can occur if one partner refuses to attend marriage counseling sessions. A marriage is essentially the partnership of two individuals, but when the marriage begins to sour, both must put aside selfishness and try to repair the damage done and rebuild.
What happens if [...]

The big day is coming up, with all of the pressure, stress, trappings, dressings, heady expectations and horrific trepidation that you may expect and the truth is that we have created this monster ourselves. Valentines Day is the commercialization of love and marriage as only the show-and-tell culture can do it. Big, loud [...]

Marriage counseling is fast way to bring a stop to constant bickering, even when it has plagued a relationship for years. In a long term relationship, constant fighting is actually a mode of communication that has become a habit, repeated over and over again until it is a ‘muscle memory‘ for your partnership. Thankfully, [...]

Many people discuss the issue of maturity when they talk about younger couples and if they are ready for marriage. Usually, when this old adage is being brought up it means that someone doesn’t think one or more of the couple is mature enough to handle the stress and responsibility in marriage.
Age [...]

Women often leave their husbands because their emotional investments in the marriage have not been returned. Very often, marriage counselors working with individual women hear relatively common versions of the same type of marital story.

My husband barely knows me anymore. We’re hardly even friends.
I feel alone, all the time. Hurt and abandoned.
My [...]

Every year there are thousands of marriages that are brought to a grinding halt due to the effects that depression and anxiety take on the partnership. More than a general unhappiness with the marriage or unsatisfactory lifestyle or environment, depression is not something that can be helped by a simple change. Real depression [...]

Don and Heather had been married for close to 25 years and had gone through many of the stages that are common to long term relationships.
The Romance, where both Don and Heather saw nothing but the best in each other, could not imagine being apart from one another and felt at peace only in [...]

Accepting that you and your spouse need for marriage counseling is not admitting that your relationship has failed. It is admitting that you are both mature enough to ask for help when you need it most.
Before attending marriage counseling, Sue had said:
If you really love each other ,you don’t need a counselor to help [...]

Every year there are thousands of couples entering into marriage counseling with the complaint that outside friendships and influences have played too big a role in the destruction of their marriage.
Friendships and family are a huge part of what makes up a person’s internal monitor of what is and isn’t acceptable or right. [...]

Changes in a long term relationship are generally slow to take place and build up over the years. Small changes, small hesitations in communication and the miniscule holding back of affection that builds into distance, silence and finally a breakdown of a fundamental bond are all process that take time. This is the [...]

Not every marriage is the kind that experiences its full real difficulties when the married couple has been married a few years and some major life changes have taken their toll on the relationship. Sometimes a couple who depended on “true love” to guide them through it all are often those same ones that [...]

Opposites attract is a phrase that has given hope to competing personalities everywhere who have felt drawn to a person not at all like them. The idea that you don’t need to have that much in common in order to be together, that opposing thoughts and beliefs can join together perfectly in a crazy [...]

Many religious organizations are advising that couples enter into pre-martial counseling as a part of their preparations for entering into the commitment of marriage. Given the rising rates of divorce and the detrimental effect this has on families, this sort of intervention is understandable.
Pre-Marital Counseling And Evaluating The Health Of Relationships
When a couple is asked [...]

Paul and Aubrey had spent the past few years in an unhappy marriage. While they hadn’t thought that divorce was ever an option, Aubrey admitted that lately, she thought that maybe Paul was thinking in that direction. Together, they had four grown children who Aubrey had raised almost alone during the rise of [...]

Darby had known about Sebie’s infidelity many years ago, when they were first married. For the past decade of their marriage, she had been living and acting as a loving wife, however the bitterness that she felt due to Sebie’s prior transgressions had been slowly growing. Darby had found in herself an inability [...]

What can you expect in Marriage Counseling? This is one of the most common questions that we receive from people who have been hesitant to contact a marriage counselor simply because they were afraid of the uncertainty of the process.
Marriage counseling is not a common discussion point for many people, and most [...]

There are relatively predictable stages to long term relationships and marriage counselors work with couples and partners in every stage. Marital stages are also referred to as relationship stages because a simple marriage license seldom makes any difference in the complex emotional and psychological stages that accompany a couple long term. In other words, [...]