“I screamed at my husband yesterday. I said the most hurtful things. Do you think I need therapy?” I overheard someone saying this to a friend in a restaurant a couple of months ago. I smiled as I passed by the table. Why? Because I knew that the person and her spouse are one of [...]
What do you do when you get angry? Take it out on the source of your anger Try to hold it for the time being and make your spouse/partner your vent later in the day Unable to do anything about it, get agitated on yourself Plan to take revenge from the one who caused the [...]
Do you ever find the information on this blog overwhelming? After all, we hand over a new piece of advice or information to you on relationships everyday. Standalone information may be good but cumulative information always makes you get a better perspective. So, in today’s post, we bring to you points that we have discussed [...]
We don’t seem to agree on anything. We fight all the time. If this is how you describe your relationship with your partner or spouse, there must be something wrong. But have you ever wondered if you are the one taking charge of the fights? Are you the one who criticizes more? Are you the [...]
It is very easy to point the finger at others when something goes wrong between you and them. Are you in the habit of blaming your partner when your relationship takes a hit? You may turn to a relationship counselor when things go out of hand very badly, but there is a lot you can [...]
Every relationship has its ups and downs. Having downs doesn’t make a relationship bad. The health of a relationship is determined not by the problems it has witnessed but by the equation between the two partners. Lisa Kift, Marriage and Family Therapist, discusses the health of relationships in her article titled “Ten Characteristics of Successful [...]
“Why do I need to tell him/her I love her? He/she knows it already.” That may be your line of argument when asked to express love in your relationship, but you should know that sometimes expressions matter. In fact, in a lot of relationships, we see that there is no obvious reason of conflict and [...]
It is obvious to get angry when you find your partner/spouse going wrong in day-to-day decisions, forgetting things, seeming fatigued all the time, losing libido, becoming overtly sentimental or being dull. But before you go all berserk on him/her, find out if your partner is suffering from depression. The aforementioned signs indicate depression. These and [...]
Whatever may be the underlying reason affecting your relationship or marriage, it is always a combination of anger, anxiety, and poor communication that spoils a relationship. Believe it or not, your behavior and attitude are highly responsible for the state of your relationship – whether good or bad. You cannot keep yourself away from the [...]
What impresses you about a person on a first date? That he/she is pleasant, courteous, and calm. Now, imagine your date in a not-so-pleasant situation. Do you think he/she will be able to retain the pleasant composure then? You may not be able to judge that in the first or the first few dates, but [...]
Conflict is not what causes a relationship to fall apart; it is the tendency to avoid conflict that causes a couple to part ways. Yes, as Diane Sollee, of SmartMarriages.com puts it, “The number one predictor of divorce is the habitual avoidance of conflict.” When you argue, crib, and complain, you are actually interested in [...]
You express all your anger, complaints in clear terms to your partner/spouse but what about affection? Does your relationship suffer from Affection Deficit Disorder (ADD)? Now affection, you will agree, is the soul of a relationship. When affection is shown clearly, it just helps boost the relationship. Over time, however, couples stop expressing love. It [...]
A relationship counselor cannot help you if you are not willing to make your relationship work. In fact, there are many things that you can do on your own to improve your relationship. Couples’ therapist Keith Miller has come up with a list of ten things you can do to improve your relationship. Stop all [...]
Everyone likes to give advice. Your friends, family and even strangers are often full of free advice that you can take or leave. Of course, you can’t be rude to family and friends – not if you want to keep them. Still, relationships are difficult to maintain. Even without the advice. And while everyone likes [...]
If you saw the movie Anger Management with Jack Nicholson and Adam Sandler then you probably remember the scene when the therapist (played by Nicholson) is sitting in the passenger’s seat of a vehicle being driven by Sandler during rush hour and Nicholson asks Sandler to sing a refrain of “I Feel Pretty”. The truth [...]
There comes a time in almost every relationship where it seems that you have hit a brick wall. Nothing seems to be going right and its no one’s fault. You don’t know how you got in that situation and you don’t know how to get out. Crisis counseling can help. Often, crisis counseling only requires [...]
You may think that you are not a counselor do not possess the qualifications to be one, but there is no reason you can’t teach other married couples how to live happily and develop a successful relationship. The fact is, education is not considered counseling. It is the dissemination of information. You can be a [...]
You may have noticed that certain family backgrounds tend to develop positive relationship skills while other backgrounds do not. The truth is, relationship skills are not inherited. Rather, they are more often than not learned through environmental influences. Personality traits, on the other hand, often are inherited. That’s why you often hear people speak of [...]
Couples counseling deals with many different kinds of relationships and the intricate patterns of communication, love and inter-dependence that couples share. One of the most fascinating aspects of emotional interdependence is the ways in which emotional support types can vary. Emotional Support When beginning couples counseling, many couples are confused about the difference between emotional [...]
One of the lessons that marriage counseling teaches and guides clients through is finding the strength to say “I’m sorry” and mean it. It really isn’t easy to say you’re sorry, especially when you truly mean it. The entire point of apologizing to someone is to admit that you were wrong, that you hurt them, [...]
The chemical processes involved in falling in love and staying in love are really quite fascinating. There are so many different chemicals, hormones and changes in our body and brain chemistry that falling for that special someone is as much science as it is mystery. The honeymoon stage is characterized by a feeling of well-being [...]
Setting goals for yourself and your relationships is an important part of the healing process. Impossible goals with no real framework attached to them are one of the hallmarks of potential failure in a relationship. Knowing what you want and where you want to be in your relationship is an end result. You have to [...]
There are many media outlets that glorify the act of taking revenge on a cheating spouse or partner. From songs about breaking car windows to slashing tires and taking a baseball bat to the headlights, vehicles seem to take the brunt of the anger in both songs and video. For all the popularity of love [...]
I’ve known Dr. Marty Tashman for some time now, and I’m not sure if New Jersey has a more qualified expert for saving troubled relationships. He has been in practice for over 34 years. He is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as well as a licensed Social Worker. He has a doctorate in Clinical [...]
There are steps that can be taken to help any couple save or better their relationship. The important thing is to know that you are not alone in having problems in your partnership. They can be solved and you can find happiness together if you are willing to work for it. Steps to Save a [...]
Working with your spouse to grow and maintain a healthy relationship is one of the most important gifts you can give yourself and your loved ones. A healthy relationship is one that will enable you to withstand very difficult times in your life, and one that will also enable you to get the very most [...]
Terms of endearment are words or phrases used to address or describe a person or animal for which the speaker feels love or affection. Terms of endearment are used for a variety of reasons, such as parents addressing their children and lovers addressing each other. From movies to literature to everyday life, when someone calls [...]
Relationships, especially a marriage, require a certain amount of trust and respect in order to function successfully long term. One of the elements in that respect and trust is the ability to value your partner’s thoughts and feelings and to give them support when they require it. What happens, however, when your spouse is at [...]
A healthy relationship is one that fulfills both your needs and the needs of your partner. Of course, it stands to reason that if unhealthy needs are being met, this doesn’t actually help anyone, either. A healthy relationship doesn’t necessarily mean a romantic one, but any close emotional bond that you have with family and [...]
Love is the key factor in physical and emotional intimate relationships that last the long haul. It is relatively easy, for many, to have a physical and even very emotional bond with someone else for a while, but in order for the relationship to grow and support one another’s needs in the long term, both [...]
