Combine Your Will With Expert Counseling For an Improved Relationship
When you fell in love, life promised to be a terrific journey. But after you crossed the threshold of your wedding, your relationship gradually reached a place where you no longer look forward to the journey ahead. Something happened.
Sometimes, you know exactly what happened, and at other times, you are absolutely clueless. At this juncture of your relationship, friends suggest counseling and so do the ads in the myriad magazines and websites you come across. Can counseling really transform your relationship? Well, only if you are willing to. Your will to make a positive difference is what makes counseling work.
Arlene Foreman, M.S, a professional counselor from Philadelphia says that, through counseling, you learn to:
- understand and comfort your partner even when you disagree .
- tell your partner what you want instead of expecting your partner to know.
- stand your ground when it matters.
- show support for your partner’s goals.
- listen to your partner with your heart.
- show affection.
- heal each other with LACE (Love, Appreciation, Compassion, Empathy).
- understand how a sincere intention to change can make a significant difference in your marriage.
Now, as I said earlier, you need the will to make counseling work in your favor. What if your spouse is not willing to participate in the counseling? Should you force him/her into it? No. Willingness cannot be forced upon. Instead, go for individual counseling and learn ways to make changes to the relationship on your own. Soon, you find your spouse responding accordingly. It is important you don’t let that flickering hope of improving your relationship die.
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