Counseling Takes: The Story of Sandy
Sandy had been married for 26 years. She had been young when they met, a great beauty, with most women fading into the background whenever she was present. Smart, witty and talented, she was a commanding presence. She met her husband when she was young, he older with grown children from a first marriage. They married. While not all of the marriage was picture-perfect, she had been happy and content with her love. Four months after their 26th anniversary her husband Ernie passed away from a long-standing health condition. Sandy was devastated. Older, retirement age, she had not expected to find herself dating again, but she was.
Sandy met Doug while he was fresh off divorce #2. Handsome and funny and successful, he reminded her so much of her first husband. They began dating and after 2 years, he proposed. She moved north to be with him, leaving her adult children and friends to live with her new husband, starting over at age 60.
Six years later, she came home to a Dear Jayne letter. Her new husband had left her for someone else. The twilight years that she had planned had been destroyed, once by illness, once by infidelity and both in totality. The emotional blow to her was devastating. She had simply never pictured a future without a husband and now the entire picture of her future was blurred and displaced.
Individual counseling was the sanctuary to which Sandy turned in order to understand where she was emotionally and where she needed to go in the future. Counseling helped her learn about and invest more in those who loved her for who she was and supported her unconditionally. Individual Counseling helped Sandy begin to learn self-dependence and love of self rather than the need to rely on another person for her own self-worth.
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