Counseling to Grow
Finding the special someone that you can share everything with is one of the major driving forces behind the desire to form relationships. For a lucky few, meeting their best friend evolves into marring their best friend. This does come with its own potential issues, however.
Best friends and spouses, while sometimes the same person, share something very important, a common trait that follows every relationship. Eventually, people change, forcing relationships to evolve to keep pace with that change. We must grow as individuals and as couples in order to keep pace.
Couples therapy is one of the many resources that help couples who have grown from being each others best friends into being angry strangers living together.
Val and Harrison were married for 4 years when they began couples therapy. They had met as teenagers and been the main source of support, guidance and comfort for each other for years. As they grew as a couple, however, they found themselves growing apart and growing resentful when the support and love they needed was no longer available.
Val said:
I always knew Harrison was introverted. I did most of the talking for years! But as time went on, that quiet-ness just made me lonely instead of outgoing. If I didn’t have our kids to talk to, I think I would just about lose my mind. I don’t even know if Harrison has an opinion… he doesn’t say!
Val and Harrison needed couples counseling to help them navigate the path from best friend to real partner. They each worked with the counselor to learn how to communicate better and to once again respond as supportive partners.
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