Counselor Redefines Connection for Older Couple
It is natural for any couple to want something more or different or even better in their particular marriage. Few times in our lives are we ever satisfied with something that is “good enough.” There is always the possibility of something being better as long as you are willing to work for it. Understanding what is better and acknowledging that every situation is different, however, is necessary to realizing your happiness in marriage.
For instance, most new couples are still in the beginning throes of excitement, passion and general newness. They find little fault with one another and even when they do, the chemical reactions coming off of their bodies is making everything appear almost perfect. That new love feeling is a real, live-action chemical reaction. For older couples who have been together long enough for those chemical reactions to fade, there can be a common jealousy while seeing new couples.
Jayce said:
Cheyrl didn’t kiss me like she used to. I was watching new couples at a restaurant and they were always kissing, always touching. I remember we used to be like that. I want to be like that again.
Jayce and Cheyrl were passed the new love stage in their relationship and that initial surge of physical connection. The fact that they wanted to find that kind of connection again was a great sign; they just needed some help in redefining it to better match their more mature relationship.
Their counselor helped them understand that, while that new love feeling may never come back, it doesn’t mean any less the kind of physical comfort and excitement that they could create in their relationship now.
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