The Marriage Counseling Blog

Many couples are afraid that their couples counselor will choose a side during counseling and, of course, side with the other partner. For some, however, that isn’t the fear of counseling, it’s the hope.

It is common for couples in trouble to begin polarizing their friends and family against the other partner. In essence, they’re wrong, I’m right, don’t you see how right I am? Becomes a common theme in discussions. This same sort of behavior is often brought into the first few sessions of couples counseling, however, the key is that a professional couples counselor is trained to not take sides.

Professional couples counselors don’t really even think in terms of sides, ideally. They think in terms of the dynamic between the couple and the why there is a growing need for sides in the first place. They will look at the couple’s history, their family and social dynamic and the meaning and past history of the power struggle that is taking over the relationship.

Once the idea of taking sides is out of the equation than the counselor generally sees a big difference in the reactions and cooperation of the couple in general. Once the persons involved are encouraged to look at some of the real issues that resided behind the “he said, she said” dynamic they had created, they are able to see their relationship and their part in it in a different light.

Release from the power struggle and a reprieve from the supporting friends and family that inadvertently helped fuel that fire often results in a great partnership.

Couples Counseling can help with the power struggle and help you see past your side and theirs.

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