Couples in the Danger Zone
Arguing is one of the easiest things to do in a relationship, especially when this mode of communication becomes a habit that is repeated over and over again. Thankfully, couples counseling is a very effective solution to halting the process of chronic arguing.
Sam and Nadia are one of the many couples who’s relationship was being overtaken by arguing.
Sam shares:
We were arguing before we finished our coffee in the morning. Actually, we could fight about the coffee. Who drank the last cup, who had to make it. I didn’t even care about the things we argued about, but I couldn’t seem to have a conversation with Nadia without it turning into a screaming match. No topic was safe.
Nadia shares:
It seemed like the only time we weren’t fighting was when we were physically apart, like when we were at work. Even that wasn’t a sure thing, but we seemed to fight less if we were on the phone. It felt like we were fighting just to fight.
Sam and Nadia found that couples counseling helped them find a way to break the patterns of their chronic arguing. One of the patterns that was noticed in their fighting was, as Nadia had noticed, physical proximity. She and Sam didn’t often fight when conversing over the phone. The physical presence of their partner queued Nadia and Sam to types of body language that they had, as a couple, become hyper-sensitive to.
The over use of body language during confrontations, even in the very beginning stage, can lead to overreactions on a mental level. Be aware of how you are standing, what you are doing with your hands and arms and especially your facial reactions. Try to relax your shoulders and appear calm in order to project that sense and diffuse an argument before it even begins.
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