Does Counseling Make You Feel Like a Failure?
There is a general perception that the ones whose relationship is on the rocks go for counseling. This feeling has made its corollary a popular perception: counseling is for those whose relationships are on the verge of a breakdown. Does the thought of counseling, thus, make you feel like a failure?
I know many couples who try to sort out their conflicts with the help of their friends and families. While that is all fine, they never seek professional marriage counseling because they don’t want to be tagged as a failure. One must understand that counseling is not for failed relationships; instead, it’s to prevent relationships from failing. However, this thought hasn’t received acceptance with all sections of the society.
Are you wary of counseling because it makes you feel like a failure? Now, it is true that you cannot come to trust a stranger (your counselor) at once. Imagine being faced with an illness. Would you rather keep trying home remedies or seek a doctor’s help? You trust the doctor because you feel he/she knows his/her job. The relationship counselor knows his/her job too. Don’t wait for your relationship to make it worse before seeking help. Seek help when you see signs of trouble.
You must understand that by seeking counseling preemptively, you are just being smart. You are ensuring that your relationship never becomes labeled as a failed one. You are going to your counselor not to save your relation but to make it better. And there is scope for improvement even in the ‘almost perfect’ relationships!
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