False Expectations for Couples
More relationships have been doomed as a result of false expectations than any other reason. In the beginning, it is both common and normal to see the world, your relationship and your partner through “rose colored glasses.” Actually, it would be difficult to not succumb to the romantic feelings of joy, adventure and happiness when a relationship is in its beginning stages. That reaction is both physiological and chemical.
The “haze of new love” is not, however, the same thing as the false expectations that eventually take a dramatic toll on many relationships. Many couples understand that they are dealing with the happiness that comes with new love and marriage and also take into consideration that this feeling will pass. They understand that they must develop and nurture a deeper connection based on real emotions, interests and bonds.
False Expectations
False expectations happen when a couple builds their entire relationship on the feelings they had from the start and expect them to always remain the same. Nothing, no matter how exciting, retains that same level of excitement over thousands of days and many, many years. For couples who are victims of false expectations, the reality of dealing with the passing of that first feeling of excitement is met with mourning, disappointment and anger.
If you have found yourself the victim of the-grass-is-always-greener-on-the-other-side mentality in many of your previous relationships, it is perhaps because you have believed in the myths associated with true love. As the glow of a new relationship fades, you turn to another. Couples Counseling is one way to understand this negative cycle and stop it before it ruins your relationship.
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