Marriage Counseling and the Importance of Moving On
Dahlia and Frank entered couples counseling for an unusual reason. Both wanted to break up but weren’t quite sure how to do it. They had been struggling to make a “final split” as Frank called it, for over 4 years. Both decided their relationship was too inherently flawed and beyond repair. But because of financial reasons and a certain comfortability rut, they found themselves stuck.
Dahlia explained her position:
We know we’re no good together. We know that we’d ideally like to be with other people at some point. And we talk about leaving all the time. But we never seem to do it. It’s like we’re stuck in a bad dream: yelling and arguing all the time about the same things, over and over again.
I’m not here to repair my marriage. Its beyond repair. Heck, even if it wanted to stay in this marriage, I simply don’t feel I can do anything more. I’m burned out and want to let go and move on. But I guess we have to figure out what’s been standing in our way.
As the marriage counselor dug deeper, she found that the couple had much to say to one another but their communication skills were lacking so profoundly, that neither were genuinely hearing one another and hadn’t for quite some time.
Once the couple was able to communicate more effectively, the old resentments that had kept them stuck began to dislodge. Underneath it all was a profound amount of pain and old hurt. By finally clearing the air, the couple began to bond in a way that they hadn’t in years. While they decided to ultimately part, the couple felt on an even keel with one another, relieved of the pain and the anger that had been in their way of moving forward for a long time.
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