The Marriage Counseling Blog

Entering into couples counseling isn’t necessarily an easy process. There are usually internal obstacles that most of us encounter before entering into a therapeutic process. Questions like these may arise:

“What if the counselor takes his side and not mine?”

“What if I’m blamed for all of the problems? I’ll feel worse than I already do.”

“What if the counselor thinks we’re a hopeless case?”

“What if this is just a big waste of time?”

It’s easy to catastrophize before we enter couples counseling. But we must remember that its often a defense mechanism, keeping us from moving forward.

We’re afraid that we’re opening up a Pandora’s Box. But the truth of it is, if you are suffering in your marriage, chronically suffering, then Pandora’s Box has been open for some time, wreaking havoc.

Remember, you are also welcome to discuss your concerns with your marriage counselor. A trained professional counselor will be happy to answer your questions and allay your fears.

It’s normal to have resistance. But too much resistance could stand in the way of you truly progressing. A good technique to remember is to simply “sit with your fears.” Hear those “what ifs” in your mind and don’t take them so seriously. Recognize that they could easily be a sign of resistance, not ultimate truths.

Therapy is a healthful process. If too much discomfort exists, perhaps you’ll need to “shop around” for a new counselor. But remember, give it time, be patient and sit with your fears for a bit. They need some attention but they needn’t guide you.

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