Opposites Go To Couples Counseling
Celeste and Amalia were as different as two people could possibly be. Though the couple was drawn together by their differences, it still came as a shock to their families when they decided to marry. Family and friends were not shocked, however, when the couple entering into counseling less than a year after getting married.
Celeste was a trial lawyer and admitted control freak, who’s most spontaneous act ever was getting married so suddenly. Amalia, on the other hand, was a liberal, free-spirited writer who specialized in obtaining funding grants for non-profit businesses. She changed jobs frequently, according to which business held her passionate interest the longest.
Celeste said to their marriage counselor:
I fully realize that everyone believes we sought out marriage counseling because we made a mistake, because our personalities are inappropriately suited, because we are unhappy with each other and our new lives. They are wrong.
Amalia said:
I had a difficult time dealing with the concept of a long term commitment and deciding if it was right for me, but not the commitment that everyone is talking about behind our backs! We sought out a marriage counselor to help us more effectively communicate and express ourselves so that we can make an important decision, not because we regretted any decisions we made already.
It turns out that, contrasting with the popular thought of marital strife, Celeste and Amalia were actually in the midst of preparing for the birth of their first child through a surrogate, and they wanted to make sure that they were in agreement on parental roles and goals for their family.
The couples counselor saw in them a deep, mature, committed desire for the relationship to work and helped them outline a plan that focused on communication, similarities and differences.
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