The Marriage Counseling Blog

Oftentimes, a couple delays seeking out couples counseling because one partner feels that the other partner would never agree to attend, and so they don’t discuss the option at all. In fact, many couples who do eventually seek out counseling say that they should have come a lot sooner, but didn’t think the other would agree to go.

Making that assumption for your partner without ever actually discussing it essentially halts the opportunity for progress and healing that therapy offers. Therapy becomes a casualty of resentment and bitter miscommunication between struggling couples.

Couples counseling is a tough subject to broach with a partner when you are going through a difficult time in the relationship as it is. There is no hard and fast rule about which partner is one who would argue against therapy, but the reasons for the argument are often common.

“I don’t want to tell a stranger our problems,” is one common line of thought.
“We can fix this ourselves if we just try a little harder and talk a little more,” is another common refrain.

Egos and pride aside, couples therapy is simply a tool to assist couples in opening the lines of communication in a neutral environment and learning different ways to apply new knowledge and skills about relating to each other.

If you have hesitated to initiate a discussion about couples therapy because you assume your partner will refuse to attend with you, you are probably doing yourself and your relationship a great disservice. After all, your partner may be thinking the exact same thing.

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