When to Seek Marriage Counseling
Many of us are skeptical about relationship counseling; we wonder if meeting a total stranger will help matters. In an earlier post, ‘How Can a Third Person – the Counselor – Help Improve Your Relationship?‘ we discussed how exactly a couple counselor helps. Now, when should you actually visit the marriage counselor? This is something most people are not sure about. Waiting for the marriage to reach the verge of separation seems too late to go to the counselor. Today, you may not know if your situation will need counseling tomorrow. The good idea is to act today. No, not necessarily by seeking an appointment with the counselor.
Today you just need to make an effort to improve your relationship. If you and your spouse have not been communicating well for some time, vow to change that scenario. Increase communication, express appreciation and love, and plan ‘together’ time. Now, if we knew how to do all that, counselors would be jobless. Figuring out what to do on your own can be quite a task. There is a solution though: go for the free marriage advice available. No, I am not asking you to ask your friends, family, and acquaintances for advice. Join a marriage forum where you will find others like you seeking and providing advice. Such a forum derives its knowledge from real-life examples. Apart from talking it out on a forum, you may also ask for free guidance provided by someone like Mort Fertel, author and founder of Marriage Fitness. Fertel shares in e-mails some simple but effective tips on holding on to your marriage, all free of cost.
You must remember one thing though: home remedies won’t help you if the disease worsens. So, if you are unable to add the spark to your marriage, seek counseling. Your counselor is not a magician; he/she will need your help to make your relationship better. You must, therefore, be willing to make that positive difference in your marriage.
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I agree many of us do leave it until crisis point before we seek help.
By the time we do seek couple counselling resentment and anger have built up to a point it’s difficult for us to see “the wood from the trees” “home remedies” can often add to further misunderstandings
This does not mean the problems can’t be resolved of course, but often it requires a significant amount of counselling sessions to finally resolve the build up.