Marriage Counseling – Allowing for Radical Change
Phil and Marla sat before the marriage counselor, quite unsure what to do.
When Phil decided he wanted to quit his job and study yoga, Marla “freaked out” according to Phil. She was a stay-at-home mom in a small, suburban town, a member of the local PTA and performed charitable duties in her spare time.
Phil was a criminal lawyer. He was one of the best in the state and had a sterling 15-year long reputation. Problem was, he was deeply unhappy and very stressed. He begin exhibiting heart problems and knew he needed a change. Throughout his professional career, he studied yoga several times a week and had become an advanced practitioner. His teacher suggested a course Phil could take that would allow him to teach eventually. Of course, he wouldn’t make the money his law profession provided, but, Phil reasoned, he’d have his health and happiness back.
Marla felt this was a radical choice and would upset the entire family’s life. Inevitably, Marla and Phil legally separated and marriage counseling facilitated the separation in a healthy way. Phil did leave his legal practice and began studying yoga seriously, while visiting his children on weekends. Marla was able to accept Phil’s new path, but from a distance. She went back to school a few nights of the week and began discovering some new paths for herself.
Ideally, a marriage should allow for radical change, such as Phil’s new career choice. Sometimes, the couple cannot withstand it. Either way, counseling can allow a couple to adjust accordingly.
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