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Being ‘We’ Can Make Your Marriage Happy

Something is considered a success or a failure at only its closure. How would you then describe success of a marriage? Do you call a marriage successful because it has lasted a certain number of years? The next day, you may learn about the couple parting. Then, do you call a marriage a success when the marriage is on its death bed?

There are chances that the couple didn’t live a very happy life together. Defining marital success is not easy. In fact, I don’t like to associate the word ‘success’ to marriage. I would rather associate ‘happy’ with marriage.

Marital happiness and your individual happiness are dependent on each other. You cannot make your marriage happy if you are not happy, and you cannot be happy if your marriage is not. Marriage is not an entity like you. Marriage exists because you and your spouse make it exist. So, don’t look at changing things in your ‘marriage’; start looking at improving your relationship with your spouse, the other person in your marriage.

The ways to make your marriage happy are simple: love, respect, affection, communication, fun, togetherness, tolerance, combined decision-making, etc. And yet, we forget one or more of these things often. The key lies in looking at things together. Don’t just think in terms of ‘you’ and ‘I’; starting thinking ‘we’ and ‘us’. Don’t let your spouse’s problems be his/hers or your problems be just yours. Don’t keep finding faults in each other all the time; learn to look at your own mistakes and find out what is wrong with the two of you.

Letting go of the obstructive ego is a great way to bond and make your marriage happy. However, that does not mean you should take abuses. This just means that you should offer a space for your spouse to open up to the idea of being ‘we’.

This article was written by Staff Writer, and posted on Thursday, July 15th, 2010 at 4:57 am. It is filed under Marriage. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can skip to the end and leave a response. Pinging is currently not allowed.