Broaching the Topic of Couples Counseling
Talking about couples counseling with your partner is never an easy prospect. Many couples feel as if its some sort of admission of defeat; that their relationship is failing somehow and needs outside help. Others just fear the unknown. If one or the other partner has never experienced the therapeutic process, it may just seem threatening or intimidating.
Then there’s the shame factor. Many couples like to give the outward appearance of a working relationship, even if there is dissension and pain underneath. Talking about your relationship to a couples counselor requires a forthcoming attitude, one not afraid to share your difficulties with the other.
Sometimes its simply cost. In these trying economic times, arranging a weekly appointment with a couples counselor is just another added expense. This can be remedied in a number of ways. Occasionally, your health insurance will cover either some or all of your expenses. If you don’t have such comprehensive coverage, most counselors are willing to adjust their rates according to your budget. Another option is seeing a couples counselor every other week.
Bottom line: these are all hurdles that can keep you from couples counseling. But a failing marriage can cost an incredible amount, including the marriage itself. At some point, help for your marriage needs to become a priority in your life.
Take a look at the areas of your life that already take precedence. You’d be amazed how much money goes toward items and services in our lives we could possibly do without (yes, I’m talking about your cable television, your night out with the boys/girls, that new plasma screen television, etc.) It might be time to re-evaluate and let go of your self-consciousness surrounding couples counseling for some genuine relief.
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