Comments on: Communication without Blame – Marriage 101 http://themarriagecounselingblog.com/marriage-counseling/communication-without-blame-marriage-101/ Discussions on Marriage, Family, and Counseling. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 13:32:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Heather http://themarriagecounselingblog.com/marriage-counseling/communication-without-blame-marriage-101/comment-page-1/#comment-2984 Heather Mon, 10 May 2010 14:25:30 +0000 http://themarriagecounselingblog.com/?p=261#comment-2984 I understand about unarguable responses, but in my house, here's the way it goes: me: I feel bad when you don't kiss me good bye. him: Great, I haven't left for work yet and you are already upset with me. I never do any thing right. me: That's not what I meant- and you do lots of stuff right. Why do you feel you need to put yourself down. him: If I'm not doing anything wrong, then why am I in trouble? me: You're not in trouble. him: Yes I am! Are you deaf? You never listen. And out the door he goes. Please help me with "non arguable statements" because I'm sure I'm doing it wrong. I understand about unarguable responses, but in my house, here’s the way it goes:

me: I feel bad when you don’t kiss me good bye.
him: Great, I haven’t left for work yet and you are already upset with me. I never do any thing right.

me: That’s not what I meant- and you do lots of stuff right. Why do you feel you need to put yourself down.
him: If I’m not doing anything wrong, then why am I in trouble?
me: You’re not in trouble.
him: Yes I am! Are you deaf? You never listen.

And out the door he goes. Please help me with “non arguable statements” because I’m sure I’m doing it wrong.

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