Counseling - An Admission of Success not Failure
“If I had only known then what I know now.”
Somehow this phrase is particularly apt when it comes to relationships. Looking back on a history of relationships, some if not all of us wonder “What the heck were we thinking?”
That’s because relationships are a growing, expanding part of our lives and are usually if not always in direct correlation with how we feel about ourselves. The success or failure of a loved connection is based on the work we’ve done on ourselves.
This is where counseling comes in. Whether it’s private counseling or couples counseling, you are given the opportunity to do personal work in a safe environment with the guidance of a professional.
We all know the sinking sensation when two people attempt to work out a difficult issue between themselves without the benefit of a helpful third party, where both parties are left frustrated, confused and moorless. Of course, it’s difficult to move ahead - egos are involved, the baggage of our past. Sometimes its often impossible to see the forest through the trees.
Even in our advanced day and age, counseling can often seem like some admittance of failure, when nothing could be farther from the truth. When society use to be more genuinely communal and tribal place, it was common for a third party to aid and guide us. But in the individualistic world of today, we often feel we should “go it alone.” Nobody feels comfortable to stop and ask for direction.
Bottom line: reaching out for help is an act of strength, not failure. No man or woman or couple is an island. It’s more than alright to reach out - it’s practical, helpful and ultimately, wise.
