Couples Counseling, after the Fact
When Leisha and Drake sat before a couples counselor, they almost didn’t know where to begin. They had been married to one another before and spend over 4 years divorced. Since that time, they both somehow managed to return to one another romantically, after several failed relationships, even one engagement. They lived in close proximity of one another as well and over the last 4 years spent almost as much time together as when they were married.
According to Drake:
Well, I don’t know what we’re supposed to do. We act like we’re married. Everyone thinks we’re married. But we’re not. In a weird way, our relationship seems to work better without marriage but I don’t know whether we’re just fooling ourselves. Like, maybe we’re just afraid of commitment or something. And bottom line, practically speaking, we’re spending twice the money on rent and other expenses while we figure it out. I don’t know - maybe we’re just really good friends. Or…maybe, we should just bite the bullet again and get married. But then, if it doesn’t work out…we don’t know what to do!
Couples counselors recognize the uniqueness of every couple. Every couple operates in their own fashion and has their own particular patterns and history. In this case, Drake and Keisha had a working relationship, they just had trouble defining and committing to it. Throughout their 6 months with the counselor, they explored their initial marriage and the problems that took place. With some of the formative issues unearthed, they were able to redefine their current relationship and decide the direction they wanted to go. They were remarried 1 year later.
