Couples Counseling and Finances - How to Share
Deciding to pursue marriage counseling is not an easy choice. Many factors come into play, one of which can be expense. Finances can be one of the most “hot” topics of a marriage. already causing a great deal of anxiety.
It’s important to remember that there are alternatives when finances are an issue. You and your partner shouldn’t deny yourself much needed help based on financial issues. Often counselors are more than happy to work with you and your partner by using a sliding scale. Also, take the time to thoroughly explore your health insurance, if you have it. Call them and ask them how much of your counseling is covered. Even if you see someone out of your network, there can be some reimbursement.
It’s important to research the financial possibilities beforehand. As a couple, you don’t want the expense of a counselor to be an added burden or a new reason for friction! The dynamic between you, your partner and the counselor starts before you’ve even entered the office. If possible, as a couple, delegate the research. Often, among couples, one of the two is the “doer” who makes the relevant phone calls, looks at the family budget, fills out the needed paperwork. It’s important, even in a fragile state, to share the responsibilities needed to begin your therapy. That way, the start of your couples therapy is as free of resentment as possible.
Again, finances needn’t be an issue - even if finances are currently causing the most strain in your relationship. There are alternatives, if you dig a little. You might have to cut something out of your budget for the time being - but this is your marriage after all. The stakes are high. Tightening the purse strings might be a small “price to pay” if you and your partner’s overall happiness is at stake.
