The Marriage Counseling Blog

Sandra saw her husband’s anger problems escalating over the last few years and insisted they seek marital counseling as quickly as possible. Frank is a cop, with over 15 years in the force. His temperament was often sporadic but manageable. Recently Frank received a promotion which entailed longer hours at work. Soon, his anger issues became more prominent.

One night, he came home after a long day and scolded Sandra openly in front of her friends for not cleaning the house that day. When he left the house in anger, he slammed the door so hard, glass broke. Sandra drew the line - if they didn’t seek couples counseling, she would consider leaving the marriage.

Sandra and Frank made a preemptive move. While Frank’s rage problems were increasing, they decided it was best to seek counseling before it got any further. After 1 year in therapy - as well as Frank seeking some individual therapy - they are happier than they’ve been in a long time, says Sandra. Frank has also reduced some of his workload, which was becoming increasingly taxing on his mental health.

It’s important to recognize marital problems before they get to a place of crisis. This isn’t always the simplest act. It’s often difficult to recognize serious problems within your marriage before they escalate. Anger issues are a good example of something to monitor closely. If you notice you or your partner having frequent outbursts over seemingly unimportant issues, it’s important to make a move before it gets more serious.