The Marriage Counseling Blog

“I didn’t know what to expect at first. I grew up with my dad referring to counselors and psychologists as “head shrinkers”, so I certainly didn’t have a good feeling. But after a session or two, I really started to appreciate it. I realized that it actually, well…it feels good to talk about what’s on your mind. Not that I didn’t do that with my wife, but she stopped listening, it seemed. The couples counselor took me seriously and that alone changed my outlook.”
- Ted, 38

“I’ve seen therapists before but never a marriage counselor. I felt so ashamed at first…and really anxious. I didn’t want anyone to know. I made sure we parked far from the office because I didn’t anyone to see our car there! Now I realize that’s ridiculous. That shame is part of the problem. I had to own up to the fact that Lee and I were having problems. And that’s alright! We all have problems sometimes and I’m no longer trying to win some contest.”
- Barb, 52

“I was thrilled when we started seeing a marital counselor. I was tired of hitting the same wall again and again. I needed a mental break but Lisa refused for a while, almost a couple of years. By the time she agreed, I thought, “Finally!” Now, we’ve been going for 6 months and it’s meant a world of difference. Our household feels so much saner. And even though it’s tough on our budget, it’s worth it. We’ve cut some other stuff out. Mainly all of the booze we used to buy to numb out!”
- Taylor, 31

“You’d think at this age we’d have it all figured out. 41 years of marriage! How could we have any problems? Well, we’ve had the same problems for a long time. And the really weird part? We only met with out counselor a handful of times. We made enough progress that even the counselor suggested we end. All of these years and that’s all it took?”
- Liza, 68