Couples Therapy for Household Chores
Often couples counselors see their fair share of what on the surface appear to be petty problems and differences. These problems are not, of course, petty to the couple and most often these seemingly simple issues represent bigger underlying themes. This was the case with David and Sarah, a young couple who have been married 7 years and living in the suburbs.
David says:
She’s a complete slob and I just can’t take it anymore. She’s just to creative and artistic to be bothered with mundane things like doing the dishes. I thought it was cute at first because it came across as carefree, but carefree turned to flighty and flighty turned into disgusting. I’ll spend my entire seekend cleaning up the place and she walks in, with absolutely no regard for what I’ve done – tossing her s*%t everywhere. I’ve turned into her maid, or her mother, which might be worse.
Sarah, in the meantime, was feeling constricted and tired of living in what she considered a controlling environment and started finding excuses to not come home. staying Their marriage was seriously suffering and the issue at hand seemed like it was a matter of designating household chores. tidiness. But was it?
With more probing from the couples counselor, it was uncovered that David lived in a messy house growing up and was very embarrassed when friends would visit. Sarah had grown up in a highly controlled household that she had to constantly help clean.
In this couple, the issue of household chores had deep psychological roots that needed to be addressed by the couple before they could address their current living situation. Seemingly petty issues often have deeper roots, ones that can be explored safely in couples counseling.
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