Homespun Marriage Solutions
Long term relationships are difficult to maintain. People change over time, as does the nature of the environment around that relationship and in order to successfully navigate those changes, a couple must alter themselves and how they behave and react to each other.
It is very common for couples to fall into the habit of hiding their feelings during conflict. Avoiding the tension around conflicting desires is an easily understandable way to try and resolve problems in a relationship; however it cannot work in the long term as a solution. Eventually, resentment and anger will build up and begin to erode the small things, the seemingly insignificant happinesses until they are actually insignificant and not enough to ward off the feelings of isolation and anger that overcome a couple.
Every couple has options for handling problems in the relationship, which options they choose and how they choose to go about that option speak to how successful they may be in resolving the issues.
Here are some of the common ways for couples to handle difficulties in the relationship:
1) Ignore what is personally wanted in order to please our partner
2) Attempt to compromise so that each partner is able to address their needs while still meeting the needs of their spouse.
3) Downplay the spouse’s needs as unnecessary and attempt to have their own needs met no matter what the cost to their spouse.
Each of these resolution techniques has its consequences, benefits and detractions. Discussion of the proper resolution techniques with a marriage counselor can be the difference between a successful long term marriage and an unhappy couple.
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