How Big Are Your Marital Conflicts?
Have you ever heard someone say that his/her marital problems are too big to be solved by petty relationship tips? Oh wait, you say that all the time. Your problems are huge, you say. I am sure they are, but I believe every problem has a solution. However, the solution needs to be preceded by your will. If you are not willing to solve a problem, it will not get solved.
So, how big is your marital problem? You think your spouse is too rude, cold, insensitive etc.? Have you ever tried to find out if your spouse feels the same way about you? Of course, he/she does. That is why he/she hurls abuses at you or gives you the silent treatment or cribs you all the time. You are right that there is a problem but you may have been wrong in identifying the problem. Your spouse’s behavior may be the consequence of the problem and not the real problem.
You may have conflicts arising out of differences in religious and political views, family goals, expectations from the marriage. A smart way to prevent such conflicts is by going for counseling before your marriage. At times, being in love blinds us to some ground realities. You should know what your beloved expects of the marriage. Getting into the marriage with different sets of expectations is a recipe for disaster.
However, all is not lost even if you didn’t go for premarital counseling. You can make your marriage better by seeking counseling at any point of time in your marriage. Counseling will open your eyes to the state of your marriage and the feelings of your spouse. And your big marital conflicts will no longer remain conflicts.
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