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Is Boredom Killing Your Marriage?

At times, it is nothing but boredom that brings marriage on the verge of divorce. The seven-year itch is also about the same thing. You stay with a person long enough to lose interest in him/her and are at a loss of ideas for having fun together. Now, this itch doesn’t necessarily come after seven years; it may come earlier or much later. Most couples are likely to experience the boredom phase some time or the other in their relationship. Is your marriage going through this phase?

You are going through this phase if:

You no longer enjoy the ‘together time’
The spark between the two of you is missing
You don’t plan vacations, fun outings, or fun events anymore
You have more fun when you have other people for company

Now, these are just cursory indicators suggesting that you two are bored. But you know, there is a silver lining to the situation: both of you are bored. How is that a silver lining? Well, both of you want the situation to change, thus, both of you can take measures to bring back fun in your marriage.

The question that arises now is: where do you begin? Here’s an idea. Start asking your spouse if he/she is bored. In finite words. Ask something like “Are you bored too?” If you ask this out of the blue, your spouse will definitely look at you questioningly or ask you a number of questions. Now, respond to all that, but remember, you are not supposed to imply that you are bored of him/her. You are bored of the current state of things, and that is what you need to highlight. Together, plan to make things better. Bring back the expression of love. Get involved in each other’s lives again. Deep down, if you want the marriage to be happy, you will be able to do all this; you just need to take the first step: teaming up with your spouse.

This article was written by Staff Writer, and posted on Wednesday, July 21st, 2010 at 7:14 am. It is filed under Marriage. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can skip to the end and leave a response. Pinging is currently not allowed.