Is the Spark Missing in Your Marriage?
Remember the time when you were almost swept off your feet? Remember those times when you used to wait for the calls from your beloved? Now that your beloved is your spouse, have things changed between the two of you? Is the spark missing? Is there no sweet tension between the two of you when you share the same space? Something seems to have happened, but what is it?
Someone once told me that two people who talk about the moon, the breeze, or making a change in the world take a hit when they have to talk about the price of groceries on a regular basis. Now, that’s really true. The magic in your relationship is suddenly replaced by the mundane realities of everyday life. You start talking about household responsibilities, domestic chores, each other’s families, and your kids. The good thing about this is that you are still talking. There are times when a relationship can reach a stage where communication ceases to exist.
You know what makes a marriage great? The fact that after having a bad day at work you can come home and take the frustration out by keeping your head on your spouse’s shoulder. Now, your spouse may have had a bad day the same day. That day may not be pleasant for either of you at home, but deep down, you are aware that your spouse provides you an emotional haven.
The spark that existed when you fell in love may not exist throughout your married life but there will be other kinds of spark, like the understanding glance from one corner in a room full of people. Being too comfortable does not spoil a relationship; running away from the familiarity in search of the strange spark is what spoils it. If you haven’t communicated in a long time or if things have become sour lately, talk it out with your spouse. If your spouse is hurt and reluctant to cooperate, seek counseling – even if alone – to make a positive difference to your marriage.
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