Making Amends through Couples Counseling
Caroline and Bobby had found themselves in a predicament. Both were deeply in love and interested in moving further with their relationship but seemed to be hitting a roadblock. Bobby was interested in marrying within the next year and Caroline had no desire. They entered into couples counseling to talk about the “bigger picture” of their relationship’s direction.
As Bobby puts it:
The fact that she’s not interested in marriage concerns me. I wonder if she ever will be. I want to make plans for the future. If she’s hesitating now, to me its a bad sign. You know, she probably has serious commitment fears. And if that’s the case, I don’t know if I want to stay with her. It’s a waste of my time.
In the case of Caroline and Bobby, Caroline was not prepared for marriage and didn’t see it happening for at least 10 more years, which was longer than Bobby felt comfortable with. The couple parted for over two years then surprisingly found themselves back in counseling, ready to move forward with one another. considerably later in the game.
Life and relationships often take circuitous routes. It’s not like the movies. People let go of one another often to find themselves back in each others lives. But couples counseling allows for patience, time and understanding; a good, fertile practicing ground.
Commitment fears are a common topic in marriage and couples counseling. Couples need to get to the root of the problem. What is it they are afraid of? Is it a genuine fear of commitment or a deeper fear of intimacy? Couples counseling is a safe arena where people can openly talk about their concerns.
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