Marital Counseling by Phone
Liza and Thomas are the stereotypical examples of “jet setters.” Both are high-profiled business people. Liza lectures and advises companies around the world on the importance of global marketing. Thomas is an international lawyers with clients across the globe. Both “live” in New York City but last year, they were only there a total of 28 days.
When they called their marriage counselor, both were afraid they were slowly losing their marriage and connection.
Thomas spoke first:
I don’t feel like I know her anymore. We’re becoming strangers. It’s like distant relatives speaking sometimes. We sound so formal! I know our careers are important to us…but are they important enough to cost us our marriage? There has to be some sort of middle of the road place, where we can connect but still keep our professions in tact. But right now, I’m not sure if its possible.
The marriage counselor suggested weekly phone sessions, since both were on the road for the next 2 months. As the counselor explored each of their career paths, he also explored the ways that these careers often shielded each of them from connecting on a deeper level, that their professions were possibly a smokescreen for fear of intimacy.
Both partners worked eagerly with their marriage counselor and were happy to make the time each week to speak on the phone. Soon, the two were making more time for one another, less time for their jobs. Both still use the services of their counselor via phone when they feel as if they need to reconnect again.
