Marriage Counseling - An Alternative to Well-worn Paths
Many people forego couples counseling because they often believe their relationship is “as good as it gets.” Often, when coping with poor role modeling and low self-esteem issues, an ailing relationship seems almost the norm. Some are even taught to withstand at all costs, as a way of proving your love - the “stand by your man” philosophy.
Mel and Harriet were in an old trap. After 14 years of an unhappy marriage, it was everything their children could do to convince their parents their marriage was in trouble.
Hank spoke first:
So we fight a lot. What couple doesn’t? This seems ridiculous, being here. After all these years. I don’t think either of us have that many complaints. We can manage.
Harriet felt differently:
I feel like if I have to take another day like this, I’ll kill myself. I’d rather be alone for the rest of my days. Every day is a battle and I want something more. I remember when I was a kid, I dreamed of my perfect man; how much romance we’d share, love, laughs. And this has been just the opposite. This has been hell. I’m tired of hell.
The marriage counselor knew the couple was in a very serious situation, with very divergent views. She spent much of the first few months just encouraging them to talk, to speak their mind. This alone proved to be extremely helpful, especially for Harriet who felt as if she’d spent the last 14 years, “corked like a champagne bottle”.
Old patterns can be changed when you decide it’s time. Nobody needs to withstand chronic unhappiness. Couples counseling allows you to forge new ways for yourself. It starts with being able to express your truth, simply and openly.
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