Marriage Counseling – Lessons that Last
When Peter entered couples counseling with his then-wife Maureen, had had no clue how long-lasting the implications would be.
According to Peter:
When Maureen and I finally divorced, at first I thought couples counseling was a waste. It certainly didn’t save our marriage. Then again, even our counselor knew we had what was considered “irreconcilable differences.” He [the marriage counselor] really helped us part amiably so for that, I was grateful. Before, their was such animosity between us, it was tough for she and I to sit in the same room. Now, we’re both comfortable with one another. Actually, more than comfortable…we’re friends. I don’t think that could have happened without counseling.
But the best part is that I was able to take what I had learned and apply it to my new relationship with Terese. The way we communicate is so different than the way I used to communicate before. I used to be such a hothead, always having my little tantrums. I guess because that’s what I grew up around. But counseling taught me new ways to convey my feelings. And it’s way easier! Getting that angry all the time exhausts you. And Terese hears what I’m saying and usually, our conflicts are resolved quickly and easily.
Of course, I wish I would have learned some of these skills sooner but all I can say is that I’m happier now because of it. You can teach an old dog new tricks apparently. Listen, relationships can be work. But they shouldn’t be all work. I’m glad I went to “couples school” and learned how to make my relationships easier and frankly, more fun.
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