Patience and Couples Counseling
We live in “quick fix” times. We get frustrated when our computer takes an extra millisecond to load or we have to wait in a long line at the grocery store. Often when people enter couples counseling, they experience a similar frustration. It’s as if they are hardwired for an immediate solution to an often long-standing problem. Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately), marriage counseling can often take time.
Here’s what one client had to say:
I thought we’d have to see our couples counselor once or twice. I didn’t really know what the process was like. It was all new to me. But the first session, our counselor just asked us a bunch of questions. When I left, I thought, “What the heck? Where was our help?” By the second session, I realized what we were in for. Jamie and my problem ran deeper than I thought. We have to dig up some pretty old stuff and it was not easy.
After our 6th session, I realized how long this could take…and I didn’t care. I grew to really appreciate the visits to our counselor. I hate to say it, but it was kinda the highlight of my week. Jamie and I were really working hard and it felt good to be working with him, not against him. I guess I expected some quick fix and instead Jamie and I went through a process that really saved our marriage I think. Weird part is: I also stopped feeling so much anxiety in my daily life. It was is couples counseling was helping me individually as well. I guess that stands to reason, huh?
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