The Marriage Counseling Blog

Many couples will refrain from seeing a couples counselor due to finances. And often those same problematic finances are what’s causing a strain in the marriage. Finances are cited as one of the problematic topics in a marriage.

This is for a number of reasons. First, by the time finances are an issue, both parties are usually already feeling the strain. Finances can strike at the core of all of us. It hits us in a fundamental place in our psyche. We feel our very survival is at stake. Who will feed us? Clothes us? How can we keep the roof over our head? These are very real and primary concerns and can bring out a very particular and deep panic among couples.

Another reason is that finances often signify other things for a couple, such as power and control. Perhaps one partner makes considerably more money than another or one seems to hold the “purse strings” in the relationship. These financial issues usually stem back into our childhood. Our parents all had particular relationships with money that they have passed down to us, some of them healthy and some of them not. Then we couple or marry and have to contend with a new set of historical financial issues.. Underneath it all, money is usually about a deeper issue and it’s a counselor’s job to dig through the obvious and get to the core of the matter.

If finances are an issue for you and your partner, there are many couples counselors who are happy to work within your budget via the use of a sliding scale or payment plan. Don’t deny yourself the help you need based on finances. Your life and your mental health come first.

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