Talking about Marriage Counseling
For some couples, even the talk of marriage counseling can be a pivotal moment.
Listen to what Tina had to say:
I didn’t know what to say to Sam but I knew something had to be done. Our marriage was obviously falling apart. I didn’t know where to turn. One of the priests at our church had suggested couples counseling and at first I thought it was a great idea. That’s until I had to bring it up to Sam. I knew he’d be resistant. This is a man who doesn’t even like to go the doctor’s when sick…why would he go to a couples counselor, right?
Well, I talked about it one morning over breakfast. He practically bit my head off. I thought, “Well, that’s what I expected. I guess I’ll give this idea up.” But as the months went by, I got tired of having to bend to his will. I told him, “Listen, Sam…I don’t really care what you’re thoughts are about counseling. I think its a good idea so you’ll have to run with it or I’m out of here. And I mean it.” And I did. It was either couples counseling or I was going to leave the marriage. It was a decisive moment for me. He attended, begrudgingly at first and then willingly. And we’re still together. Still working. I’m glad I stuck to my guns.
Couples counseling is a choice to be made by both parties. Once its made, the real work begins. Your loved one and you deserve the advice of a third party. Having the initial talk can often be the most difficult part.
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