The Art of Letting Go through Couples Counseling
Letting go can seem like an allusive concept to most, though we’d all like to be able to do it more frequently. Let go of what exactly? If we let go, will our life fall apart? Can we “let go” of a partner in order to let him or her grow? Can we let go of expectations that we impose on someone? Will couples counseling teach us to let go of grudges and resentments? And most importantly, can we let go for our own personal mental health and well-being?
Letting go can cause a good deal of internal resistance, according to this author:
GIVING UP AND LETTING GO
Letting go conjures up images of lack of control, being lost, getting left behind, loneliness, financial ruin. This free fall state appears to offer nothing but fear and disaster. The ego has always instructed us that striving and achievement is everything. Letting go can only result in a fall with devastating results.
After all, no self-responsible human being does that sort of thing. So we need to hang on, white knuckled and teeth clenched, in order to appear normal, while we smile through our frozen faces and staring eyes to make others feel comfortable as we conform to their expectations. This insanity is perpetuated each generation until we just let go.
When we’re able to talk openly about our marriage or relationships in couples counseling, we can begin to examine the chains that bind us. Often, we harbor unconscious fears that keep us clinging to our partner in an unhealthy way and ultimately, not allowing ourselves to grow. To be free of these expectations means standing on our own and allowing. It is then we can genuinely connect with someone, fearless, open and adjustable.
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