The Holidays and Marriage Counseling
The holidays have their own built-in stressors for couples. It’s a time when already existing problems tend to rear their ugly head. What is it about the holidays that can bring out the worst in us? Maybe it’s the expectations. We are bombarded with images of how holidays are supposed to be and when our family doesn’t live up, we feel like failures or that we’re missing out one something. Marriage counseling allows you to talk about your relationship “as is,” minus the expectations.
Perhaps the holidays are often difficult because of the financial strain they can put on all of us. Financial issues can be one of the top stressors in a marriage or a relationship. It strikes at a survivalist chord in all of us, meaning that when it comes to our survival, we get worried! And during these tough economic times, marriages and relationships can really feel the pinch.
Whatever the case, it’s important to remember to relax over the holidays. Even couples in a state of emotional distress tend to work though issues more easily when they are at ease. While its often tough to do, its important for couples to take time out. That can mean together or apart. Turn off the television, the radio, the cell phones. Remove yourself from the media bombardment of what you’re holidays is supposed to be like. Take some time with your loved one that’s calming, even if its as simple as a walk.
And remember, holidays are stressful. Once we let go of the way we expect them to be, we can genuinely enjoy them!
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