The Marriage Counseling Blog

We’re a quick-fix society. We want things done now. Some couples enter into marriage counseling with the same mindset, wanting a repair to their marital issues almost overnight. Unfortunately (or fortunately, as the case may be) counseling is a process, sometimes an extended one.

Here’s what one woman had to say:

Sam and I are both very busy people. When we decided to start counseling, we hoped we could get “fixed” in one session. When I look back on what we’ve been through, I see how silly that was to think that way! After all, it took years to develop these problems. The repairs weren’t going to happen overnight. It’s kind of like a weed in your yard that’s has long roots. They run deep, these problems. We discovered that many of our fights stemmed from childhood issues. We’re still in counseling, but now I don’t expect a quick fix. I’m glad to go through the whole process. I feel better each and every day. Counseling is now something I look forward to…I almost hate when our session is finished!

It’s important to realize that couples counseling is not a quick fix. Occasionally a problem can be worked through expediently but sometimes, you’re in it for the long haul. The time could vary: 6 month, one year, two years.

It depends on your willingness as well. Most counseling requires “homework” of sorts. The more you take that work seriously, the quicker you can achieve your goals.

For some, like the woman above, counseling became a very real respite in her life; a time to reflect and grow. In our busy day and age, we often don’t take that time for self-discovery. Couples therapy or individual therapy dedicates some time to a very important resource in your life: you.

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