Using your Body to Express yourself More Effectively with your Partner
As we inherently know, the body speaks volumes – considerably more than words can. Hence why we understand on a deeper level what it means when your partner crosses his arms abruptly or rolls her eyes. The body can us a myriad of messages but more than just a communicator, we can use it as a form of expression. Often a couples counselor will take note of a couples’ body language to understand what is really going on.
To understand the body better and the many messages it conveys, here are some basics:
1. Face
The most expressive part of your body is your face. When you enter a room if you feel nervous, your expression might make you look aloof or unfriendly.
Smiling at the room is a sure-fire way to remove anyone’s doubts about your approachability. Smiling makes us look warm, open and confident.
2. Eyes
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. They certainly give people clues about what we are feeling.
A direct gaze towards someone can show interest- direct staring on the other hand can mean an intense dislike. Very little eye contact can show that you are shy.
3. Hands
Have you ever watched someone’s hand gestures when they are talking? Open hand gestures tend to make a person appear open and honest. Bringing hands together to a point can accent the point you are making.
Wringing your hands or excessively moving your fingers and hands will give away nervousness. It can even make someone look dishonest- are they trying to hide something?
4. Posture
If you lean towards someone you are showing an interest in that person. If we are feeling low in confidence, we tend to slouch our shoulders and look down.
Men and women use different body language. For instance, women will stand close to each other, hold eye contact with the person they are talking to and use gestures.
Men make little effort to maintain eye contact and don’t rely on the use of gestures to communicate. Men and women can learn how to communicate better by observing the differences in their use of body language.
In the next few weeks, we’ll explore ways you can use your body language to your advantage. There are simple techniques that can help when you communicate with your partner as well as alleviate anxiety and confusion. Use your body to your advantage. We’re more than just talking heads!
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