What is the Most Dreaded Word in Marriage?
What do you think is the most dreaded word in a marriage? Divorce? No, divorce is a dreaded consequence. There is another word that may or may not bring you to the verge of divorce but will definitely shake the foundations of your marriage. The word is infidelity. Now, one may choose to define infidelity as an extra-marital affair or a one-night stand, but the pain and disgust that follows does not depend on how it happened. Finding out that your spouse wasn’t loyal to you hurts you beyond description.
So, can a marriage survive infidelity? In an earlier post on whether or not a marriage can survive infidelity, we said that it can. Of course, it ‘can’ doesn’t necessary mean it ‘will’. The willingness to carry on with the relationship is not something that comes easily. Your spouse’s apologies will not make you trust him/her again. You will pass through phases of pain, anger, resentment, shame, and all in unbearable proportions. And yet, if there is something that makes you want to save the marriage, hold on to the thought. If your spouse too seems keen on making it work, you have hope.
Though it is no excuse, getting swept away by someone else other than your spouse makes you do things that are not right and will not last long. If you are the one who has strayed away, figure out if you are really willing to work at saving your marriage. Seek professional counseling. Talking it out in front of the counselor will help you look at the big picture. Your counselor will advise you both on how to start it all over again.
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