Anger Management in Marriage
Many marriages fall victim to long term affects or anger and potential violence. Many relationships start out both passionate and peaceful, but repeated cycles of dissatisfaction and resentment can often lead in turn to escalating cycles of anger and even violence.
Dr. Marty Tashman discusses the roots of anger in marriages:
What is anger? There is some evidence to suggest that anger may be a feeling that is associated with helplessness and loss of control. People may respond to these feelings in one of two ways. When we lose control we might show it an outward way by being angry and/or violent, or if we still don’t feel as if we are getting satisfaction, control, or being heard, then this anger can turn to rage. The other way we emotionally respond to a lack of control, or feelings of loss, or disempowerment, is that we feel depressed. We think “What’s the matter with me, I should have said something to him/her”.
Anger takes a great deal of energy from us and distances us from people that we care about. If we over do it, we can lose friends, spouses, our jobs, and it upsets our children’s world greatly. It can make us feel unbalanced, lost, and exhausted.
Understanding where your anger comes from and the ways in which it is manifesting itself in you and your relationship is a vital piece to overcoming it and finding new control in yourself. Trust, love and heartfelt commitment cannot survive on rage and fear.
If there are anger management issues in your marriage, seek out counseling.
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