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Many people hold off on seeking out marriage counseling because one individual in the partnership is afraid that the other would never agree to attend. Because they hold this preconceived belief, they often do not discuss the option of marriage counseling at all and dwell, caught in a stagnant relationship without giving themselves and their partner a chance to change it.

Admitting You Need Help

Marriage counseling is a difficult subject to bring up with a partner, especially when you are going through a difficult time in the relationship to begin with. It is often felt that admitting you want to see a marriage counselor is tantamount to admitting that there is major problem in the relationship. And it is. You cannot change an issue or fix a problem or heal an injury until you acknowledge that it is there. Once you openly acknowledge that there is a problem, you are also acknowledging that you want to fix it and that you want help.

Believing In Your Partner

By assuming that your partner will refuse to enter into marriage counseling before you ever even open the topic and discuss it essentially robs you both of the opportunity for progress and healing that therapy offers. Therapy becomes a casualty of the growing distrust and resentment and miscommunication.

Marriage counseling is simply a tool that is used to assist couples in opening the lines of communication. This type of communication is needed in a neutral environment and learning different ways to apply new knowledge and skills about relating to each other.
If you have hesitated to initiate a discussion about couples therapy because you assume your partner will refuse to attend with you, you are probably doing yourself and your relationship a great disservice. After all, your partner may be thinking the exact same thing.

This article was written by Staff Writer, and posted on Saturday, December 12th, 2009 at 2:47 am. It is filed under Marriage Counselors. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.