The Marriage Counseling Blog

Few people enter into marriage counseling without the intent of changing some of their partner’s behaviors. If you are unhappy, and your partner is a major source of your unhappiness, then it is natural for you to want your partner to initiate some changes in the ways in which they are treating you. The flip side of this, of course, is that in order to help your partner change, you must also change yourself and your own actions. This is not always the welcome part of marriage counseling, but it is necessary.

By taking the time and putting forth the effort to change your behavior towards your partner and your relationship, you are creating an atmosphere of change, making it easier for your partner to pick up on that change and alter their own behavior.

A Center for Marriage Counseling gives these helpful hints on ways to change your behavior in order to better your relationship:

understand and comfort your partner even when you disagree . tell your partner what you want instead of expecting your partner to know. stand your ground when it matters. show support for your partner’s goals. listen to your partner with your heart. show affection. heal each other with LACE (Love, Appreciation, Compassion, Empathy). understand how a sincere intention to change can make a significant difference in your marriage.

Altering pathways of communication and creating an atmosphere of trust and change is just one of the many things that you will learn about in marriage counseling.

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