Commit to Marriage Therapy
In a fast-paced society where it seems like there is a pill to fix everything immediately, the concept of approaching marriage therapy as a process can sometimes be met with frustration. Our society is used to everything being done fast and we generally want things done now.
Some couples enter into marriage counseling with that same “quick fix” mindset, wanting a repair to their marital problems in one or two sessions without any extra time or work being put into it. Lasting emotional and psychological changes, however, don’t usually take place overnight.
Here’s what Cheryl had to say:
Lane and I are busy people with demanding careers and lifestyles. When we decided to start counseling, we hoped we could get our problems” fixed” in a session or two and be done with it. Looking back on that, now, I see how silly I was to think that way! It took years for us to develop these problems and reactions in our marriage, and they weren‘t simply going to go away just because we spent an hour talking to someone. We are in a much, much better place than where we were, but we still have work ahead of us.
It’s important to realize that marriage counseling is not a quick fix. Occasionally a problem can be worked through expediently but sometimes, you can expect to be in counseling for a while. After all, your marriage was a commitment. Fixing it should be a commitment, too.
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