Marriage Counseling for Dirty Dishes
Many couples enter into counseling with seemingly minor issues and manageable problems. The issues and problems are often recognized by the couple is outwardly insignificant, but they will also tell the counselor that the issues are important to them, and need to be solved. Commonly, these supposed minor issues can include housecleaning and communication issues.
For instance, many couples will argue for hours over who cleans more often and who is a slob verses who is a clean freak. Communication issues are often described as one person talking non stop, or nagging constantly, while the other is accused of ignoring the first spouse.
Most of the time, the source of these problems runs deeper than the outward issue. Control, fear and anger are often root causes for these arguments, while the dirty dishes or the towel on the floor serves as psychological “lightning rods” for more complex underlying issues.
In turn, some couples learn that they are often not dealing with individual and personal issues of their own, so their anger or pain is misdirected toward the partner.
Gabriel, for instance:
My work was horrible. The company was barely making ends meet, there were layoffs in every department, working 70 hours a week was the only way to stay employed. By the time I got home every night the last thing I wanted to hear was Sara complaining about housework and getting the kids to dentist appointments. I was disrespected, underpaid and overworked in just about every aspect of my life.
Gabriel and Sarah were able to use their marriage counseling sessions as a way to open up about their personal anxieties and frustrations and find ways to support each other through a difficult time in life.
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