Marriage Counselor Rebuilds
Scott and Janet needed to see a highly qualified marriage counselor because their marriage unraveled too far for them to move on by themselves. Their marriage began to unravel during a particularly stressful time in their lives. They had experienced a devastating financial loss that cost them a majority of their savings and retirement funds. Blame, guilt and resentment followed the financial loss and they began couples counseling still reeling. It seemed as though the marriage was lost along with their financial future when they came to counseling.
It was, in fact, financial matters that the stressed couple was arguing about almost constantly, though finances were both a root cause and a scapegoat for other issues. Though the financial stress on them would eventually ease, knowing this did nothing to quell the cycle of blame, anger and resentment that was now a mainstay in their relationship.
In thier marriage counseling session, Scott said
Janet never complained when I was making lots of money, and I started investing in high risk ventures that yielded huge, until the market collapsed. Now all of a sudden she’s looking at me like its all my fault. Now all of a sudden I’m irresponsible and stupid and a failure.
The marriage counselor needed to work with this couple on a variety of subjects, including exploring some of the deeper meanings in their relationship, while grieving the loss of a financial state that had been a safety net for some time. Slowly, they began to understand where their own fears and insecurities took part in the collapse and rebuilding of their marriage.
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