Marriage for a Woman
Women often leave their husbands because their emotional investments in the marriage have not been returned. Very often, marriage counselors working with individual women hear relatively common versions of the same type of marital story.
- My husband barely knows me anymore. We’re hardly even friends.
- I feel alone, all the time. Hurt and abandoned.
- My husband only really sees me when he wants sex. When he touches me, its because he wants sex. There can’t be a hug or a kiss unless it ends in intercourse!
- He doesn’t say he is sorry, even if he was obviously wrong.
- It doesn’t even feel like I matter to him. He doesn’t see me.
- My husband only cares that I take care of him and the kids. To him, I’m not a friend, I’m not a woman, I’m a babysitter and a bed partner.
When a woman with children seeks divorce, there is still a social and quite personal stigma attached to it. It often seems as if women should stay, however unhappily, as long as they are needed. A prevailing idea is seen as, What could possibly be so wrong that she chose to disrupt her family just to get out?
The truth is that women leave marriages for many of the same reasons that men do. They are unhappy, unfulfilled and seeking a difference in their lives. The reasons are seldom different, although the social stigma is often very much so.
Many times, the reason that keeps a couple together is not the views of society or the social stigma, but the ability of a couple to sit down, enter marriage counseling and accept the hard work that is ahead of them.
Making a marriage takes hard work and the courage to ask for a marriage counselor. Man or woman, the stakes of a long term relationship are the same.
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